You Start Dying Slowly

I read few extraordinary lines posted on one of the social platforms by an enthusiastic friend and basically written by Pablo Neruda.
Couldn't resist and would like to share this precious one with you, out there!

You start dying slowly
If you do not travel,
If you do not read,
If you do not listen to the sounds of life,
If you do not appreciate yourself.

You start dying slowly
When you kill your self-esteem;
When you do not let others help you.

You start dying slowly
If you become a slave of your habits,
Walking everyday on the same paths...
If you do not change your routine,
If you do not wear different colors,
Or you do not speak to those you don't know.

You start dying slowly
If you avoid to feel passion;
And their turbulent emotions..
Those which make your eyes glisten
And your heart beat fast.

You start dying slowly
If you do not change your life if you are not satisfied
with your job or with your love,
If you do not risk what is safe for the uncertain,
If you do not go after a dream,
If you do not allow yourself,
Atleast once in a lifetime,
To run away from sensible advice...

Let's start living slowly! High 5 :)

The 'Wedlock'

Here I am, bidding adieu to 2014 by celebrating the wedlocks of many. The wedding season has begun to unite two 'made for one another' souls for lifetime.
I have no clue who invented the concept of marriage but whosoever did, in my opinion is creditable. However, opinions differ!

I know many of us will agree to the fact that the idea of marriage is over-rated in the Indian Society. This is something that comes with the 'age' of an individual and not by the choice or situations. The society decides when a boy or a girl is ready to tie the holy knot. The traditions have been ongoing and makes it difficult for today's generation to digest this fact but this is how the society acts.

I belong to today's generation and am a strong believer of true love and marriage. I adore one of the song's lyrics which reads 'life is a game made for everyone and love is the prize!' Those who are in love, are fortunate.
Marriage, on the other hand is an art; the pleasure of mind, body and soul. It brings two unalike beings to share happiness, virtue, adversities, strengths- basically Life! A bond that recreates the inner and the outerself.

Although, not everyone appreciates art. We have been observing people who still are of the typical mindset wherein once the couple unites, the man earns money to support the family, the female takes charge of the house and housemates, raises the child and that's about it! The jobs of men and women are pre-assumed and remain that way.
It is very pitiful how people take marriage as a responsibilty and not as an opportunity. An opportunity to explore the world together, a chance to support each other equally- emotionally, financially, an occasion to live the most awaited and amazing moments together and so much more.

Its high time for people to understand that 2 is bigger and better than 1. A man and a woman together can make a family. One who earns is burdened , whereas the case isn't the same if both earn. The two must taste all the aspects of family life, for example trying hands in household chores, raising children, contributing to the family business, taking care of their parents, etc. To summarize, one person should not be dependent on the better half for a particular thing; which defines to each his own!

You can only cheers to life if you have another glass waiting to raise a toast ! Think two! High 5 :) 

The challenge of love and share!

My well wishers and Well!!...wishers, I am thankful to each one of you to be there; some as my benefactor, some as protagonists, critics and some for just being there. I owe you too much. I have learnt quite a few lessons which have helped me become bold,optimistic,fearless and self assured!

Last morning I was nominated for the ALS Ice bucket challenge (I am sure almost all of us by now know what this is). So when I got to know about this cause and the act which has gone viral I was wholehearted to perform it and I did! I asked my domestic helper; who I call my baby sister if she would help me capturing the video. Unaware of this entire ALS disease and its awareness drive she just asked me about her role in this process. I said, "Take my phone, when I show a thumps up you press the recorder button and when I am done pouring ice water from the bucket you stop!" I saw the thrill  in her eyes which gave me confidence to eventually do it!
After the shoot when the two of us actually watched the video we burst out of laughter because its funny to watch your own self doing stunts like these and moreover the cracking laugh that was recorded in it(it was hers). An eventful morning indeed!

As the rule said, I posted the video on one of my social accounts. Initially I was a bit hesitant because I somewhere knew that this ain't a normal thing to the outside world but I hardly cared and told to myself that I am born to take up challenges and immediately uploaded it with extra energy. There was a feeling of anxiety rushing through my blood as I had never done this before; at least not on the social platform :P I am happy I accomplished!
The video got likes, dislikes, good comments, stunted expressions, weird perceptions and lot more. Some thought of me as an insane creep while others showed interest and encouraged me to be myself. I appreciate both! Its good to know that people care to watch, applaud or criticize. Though I am not answerable to anyone for my actions; my purpose of executing this task was:
a) to readily accept what has been offered (as this was a good cause)
b) to be of some help in the awareness drive
c) to make people happy for atleast 60 seconds; till the video lasted
d) to give tribute to one of my most precious family members who was a victim of ALS and passed away recently.

Unfortunately, there are times in your life when you are misread and misinterpreted. But you are not to be blamed. Its the world who wants to tame you and your actions. I did it because I believed in it. Sadness was when people thought it was not needed or probably was too much to show to the world. I feel pity for people who really can not decide things for themselves. However, Its Life, Its Ok!

I just want to reach out to as many as I can to let them know that sometimes its perfectly fine to be crazy, to show love, to express with careless acts. I can bet on this, if an ALS victim or any underprivileged watches any of these videos he/she is definitely going to have a teary laugh, a protective, mighty feeling and may be his/her few ending moments of joy. I am glad I contributed :)
I'd sincerely tell all to take this up. The feeling is not of accomplishment but is filled with richness of love, purity and sharing. I promise at the end of the day you will hear, breath and feel beautiful :) High 5!

Being SOMEONE!

With my today's blog I will bring in thoughts of 2 kinds of people;
1. Who extremely agree with what's been said &
2. Who will absolutely disagree and might as well want to knock me down :P
Never mind, Like I have my say you have yours, feel free ;)

Couple of days ago, I met my 'full of life' friends as everyone is grown up (you know how it is) and spent time like the early days where we used to discuss just about everything (movies, food, boyfriends, future plans..blah blah). Friends are one's confidants, partners in crime, playmates, stress busters and so much more. It feels so relaxed, absolutely inhibited, crazy when these insane creatures are around. I truly believe that the time spent with your friends is no regrets :)

Yes, so while all this was being experienced we observed something so striking which ultimately lead to the hot topic of that evening and trust me it lasted forever. A bunch of teenagers stepped out of their regular coaching classes on that evening wearing trendy clothes and accessories, expensive watches, shoes, their natural beauty exposed to tonnes of artificial makeup and the strangest of all they carried just one book in hand. As soon as these tiny souls got freedom from the boring lectures they looked at each other with glorious smiles on their faces and planned the remaining day, which was indeed exciting to watch. This is how plans with your fellows should be, spontaneous :)

All of the above made us think of the past, our college days except for the fact that we did not put on unnecessary stuff and that we carried more than one book :p. But there was one thing so bizarre and got our minds stuck at one place; was that we could not make out who was who as all looked and sounded precisely the same. The way they dressed, the speech, gestures; ALL! Today's generation (not that I belong to 1970s, I mean the newbies) is not a trend setter but simply mindless followers. Everyone wants to win an aimless race. They all want to be public figures but what these little ones fail to comprehend is, to be a public figure you need to be different, do different. However, I don't blame them at all as for a fact I know they are striving hard to be someone else!

We have forgotten that we were made differently and are suppose to stay unique. We have lost our individuality in this materialistic atmosphere and moreover force ourselves to adapt things which are not necessarily meant for us. I feel that we have stopped caring for our own selves as we only care to be like someone else! Why are we trying so hard to fit in, when we are born to stand out! I'll just limit by saying. "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken!' High 5 :)

To Die For!

Honestly, I am not in the best of my moods today. Not that this day brought in only sadness but yes something ill! Never mind, bad times come to those who can take it and overcome :)
My little space aids letting things fade. So here I come to die for.

I am at a phase of the journey called life where I want to achieve 'something' so badly. I am sure many of us after pursuing higher education wanted to get to a point which decides the future; Can be anything a good job, luxury, a happy love life, pleasing package, an owned business, a great destination to reside, etc. This clarifies that each one of us definitely holds a bucket list, hopes and wakes up with a dream.We all have the willingness but the question is how far do we go to make it into reality? Is it to die for?

The good reads spell "Do what you love, Love what you do." Let's add die to do! (Caution: Do not reverse this statement..LOL) :D  I absolutely believe that until there ain't an urge, a belief, the willingness to turn dreams into reality, its not worth anything. Be 100% sure on what you plan to do even if the world has other plans for you. And then you will find your direction and commitment.

Work so hard that your works speaks for you, dream so big that the challenges seem smaller, love so deeply so that there is not much left to see in the world.
Let things take their own leisure time to happen. What matters is not doing great things but to do small things in great ways. I say life is not short instead is enough to become what you are suppose to. Choose a life to die for! High 5!

Fail Better!

Each evening after experiencing a bumper day I, my philosophical mother and my extremely realistic sister sit over discussions which start with A and end at Q; I bet you know how girls chatter, simply nowhere! One such warm evening we discussed what life was offering to all the 3 of us. One of the two uttered peace, the other said experience and I indicated opportunities. This debate continued until we reached failures, where we lacked and how we can turn things around. And that is how this chord hit; Let's fail better!

Fate got me reading to an awesome quote just a few days later to our discussion, expressed by some TV actor which said, "If some one questions your failure simply say, I did not fail, my success just postponed." There are such incredible times in life which smack so hard and make you realize that things are not yet over. This courageous quote refreshed my thoughts and got me back into action.

Each one of us somewhere, somehow is trying to achieve something. We take up challenges, we try, we either succeed or fail. Do we really fail? I don't think so! We don't fail; we just wrap up our next attempt and walk away probably looking for another target.
Failures can slap someone really tough. The deep impressions left by failures dishearten dreamers to desire. Why is that so? I figured out one of the reasons to this. The social circuit where we reside have profound influence on our actions and reactions. People might not appreciate a successful man but will definitely probe his defeat. The dishonorable dialogues, low looks, inglorious trials lead to a cracking sound in a man's heart which triggers his self-confidence. I believe self-belief should be only meal on the menu. If that erases, the survival is at risk.

Overlook what's been unnecessarily said, neglect the negativity and grab that one chance. Opportunities are not frequent visitors, they are in fact guests that too with gifts :D Let's give luck a chance, try until triggered and even after multiple efforts we fail, think of ways where we can fail better, because no one ever fails, it's just that their success postpones ;) High 5!

Why the Goodbye?

'It's the emptiest yet the fullest of all human messages- Good Bye.' Lately I have been bidding adieu to too many and I register how hard a task it is. This two lettered expression calls to mind those chapters which take you to all wistful as well as downhearted impressions spent; 'La vie en rose aussi avec des pauses.'

We, humans (Indians to be precise) are so affectionate, empathetic and take no time to build relationships; the strong, lasting ones. The theorem of  'oneness' that we are inculcated by our enduring families gets rid off the <detachable string> from our body and soul helping us originate bonds with benefits. People fit themselves in shoes, many a times overlooking the sizes. His/Her story grows to be mine in no time just because we choose to relate our titles. Funny, the Indian ideology!

These episodes anyways faint with time. Good byes let you have a look into the making of a relation, its sweet and spicy significance assisting you to design your upcoming sequence, while you record "Yes you morons, I will appear soon!"

My meaning of a good bye is to not end but to add an interval, everybody needs a break! Good bye simply implies that we now have inked few similar pages which can not be erased. Good bye awaits a fresh story to take place. With the belief to ink a new sheet with my beloved out there I say Good bye! High 5! :)