The 'Wedlock'

Here I am, bidding adieu to 2014 by celebrating the wedlocks of many. The wedding season has begun to unite two 'made for one another' souls for lifetime.
I have no clue who invented the concept of marriage but whosoever did, in my opinion is creditable. However, opinions differ!

I know many of us will agree to the fact that the idea of marriage is over-rated in the Indian Society. This is something that comes with the 'age' of an individual and not by the choice or situations. The society decides when a boy or a girl is ready to tie the holy knot. The traditions have been ongoing and makes it difficult for today's generation to digest this fact but this is how the society acts.

I belong to today's generation and am a strong believer of true love and marriage. I adore one of the song's lyrics which reads 'life is a game made for everyone and love is the prize!' Those who are in love, are fortunate.
Marriage, on the other hand is an art; the pleasure of mind, body and soul. It brings two unalike beings to share happiness, virtue, adversities, strengths- basically Life! A bond that recreates the inner and the outerself.

Although, not everyone appreciates art. We have been observing people who still are of the typical mindset wherein once the couple unites, the man earns money to support the family, the female takes charge of the house and housemates, raises the child and that's about it! The jobs of men and women are pre-assumed and remain that way.
It is very pitiful how people take marriage as a responsibilty and not as an opportunity. An opportunity to explore the world together, a chance to support each other equally- emotionally, financially, an occasion to live the most awaited and amazing moments together and so much more.

Its high time for people to understand that 2 is bigger and better than 1. A man and a woman together can make a family. One who earns is burdened , whereas the case isn't the same if both earn. The two must taste all the aspects of family life, for example trying hands in household chores, raising children, contributing to the family business, taking care of their parents, etc. To summarize, one person should not be dependent on the better half for a particular thing; which defines to each his own!

You can only cheers to life if you have another glass waiting to raise a toast ! Think two! High 5 :) 

The challenge of love and share!

My well wishers and Well!!...wishers, I am thankful to each one of you to be there; some as my benefactor, some as protagonists, critics and some for just being there. I owe you too much. I have learnt quite a few lessons which have helped me become bold,optimistic,fearless and self assured!

Last morning I was nominated for the ALS Ice bucket challenge (I am sure almost all of us by now know what this is). So when I got to know about this cause and the act which has gone viral I was wholehearted to perform it and I did! I asked my domestic helper; who I call my baby sister if she would help me capturing the video. Unaware of this entire ALS disease and its awareness drive she just asked me about her role in this process. I said, "Take my phone, when I show a thumps up you press the recorder button and when I am done pouring ice water from the bucket you stop!" I saw the thrill  in her eyes which gave me confidence to eventually do it!
After the shoot when the two of us actually watched the video we burst out of laughter because its funny to watch your own self doing stunts like these and moreover the cracking laugh that was recorded in it(it was hers). An eventful morning indeed!

As the rule said, I posted the video on one of my social accounts. Initially I was a bit hesitant because I somewhere knew that this ain't a normal thing to the outside world but I hardly cared and told to myself that I am born to take up challenges and immediately uploaded it with extra energy. There was a feeling of anxiety rushing through my blood as I had never done this before; at least not on the social platform :P I am happy I accomplished!
The video got likes, dislikes, good comments, stunted expressions, weird perceptions and lot more. Some thought of me as an insane creep while others showed interest and encouraged me to be myself. I appreciate both! Its good to know that people care to watch, applaud or criticize. Though I am not answerable to anyone for my actions; my purpose of executing this task was:
a) to readily accept what has been offered (as this was a good cause)
b) to be of some help in the awareness drive
c) to make people happy for atleast 60 seconds; till the video lasted
d) to give tribute to one of my most precious family members who was a victim of ALS and passed away recently.

Unfortunately, there are times in your life when you are misread and misinterpreted. But you are not to be blamed. Its the world who wants to tame you and your actions. I did it because I believed in it. Sadness was when people thought it was not needed or probably was too much to show to the world. I feel pity for people who really can not decide things for themselves. However, Its Life, Its Ok!

I just want to reach out to as many as I can to let them know that sometimes its perfectly fine to be crazy, to show love, to express with careless acts. I can bet on this, if an ALS victim or any underprivileged watches any of these videos he/she is definitely going to have a teary laugh, a protective, mighty feeling and may be his/her few ending moments of joy. I am glad I contributed :)
I'd sincerely tell all to take this up. The feeling is not of accomplishment but is filled with richness of love, purity and sharing. I promise at the end of the day you will hear, breath and feel beautiful :) High 5!

Being SOMEONE!

With my today's blog I will bring in thoughts of 2 kinds of people;
1. Who extremely agree with what's been said &
2. Who will absolutely disagree and might as well want to knock me down :P
Never mind, Like I have my say you have yours, feel free ;)

Couple of days ago, I met my 'full of life' friends as everyone is grown up (you know how it is) and spent time like the early days where we used to discuss just about everything (movies, food, boyfriends, future plans..blah blah). Friends are one's confidants, partners in crime, playmates, stress busters and so much more. It feels so relaxed, absolutely inhibited, crazy when these insane creatures are around. I truly believe that the time spent with your friends is no regrets :)

Yes, so while all this was being experienced we observed something so striking which ultimately lead to the hot topic of that evening and trust me it lasted forever. A bunch of teenagers stepped out of their regular coaching classes on that evening wearing trendy clothes and accessories, expensive watches, shoes, their natural beauty exposed to tonnes of artificial makeup and the strangest of all they carried just one book in hand. As soon as these tiny souls got freedom from the boring lectures they looked at each other with glorious smiles on their faces and planned the remaining day, which was indeed exciting to watch. This is how plans with your fellows should be, spontaneous :)

All of the above made us think of the past, our college days except for the fact that we did not put on unnecessary stuff and that we carried more than one book :p. But there was one thing so bizarre and got our minds stuck at one place; was that we could not make out who was who as all looked and sounded precisely the same. The way they dressed, the speech, gestures; ALL! Today's generation (not that I belong to 1970s, I mean the newbies) is not a trend setter but simply mindless followers. Everyone wants to win an aimless race. They all want to be public figures but what these little ones fail to comprehend is, to be a public figure you need to be different, do different. However, I don't blame them at all as for a fact I know they are striving hard to be someone else!

We have forgotten that we were made differently and are suppose to stay unique. We have lost our individuality in this materialistic atmosphere and moreover force ourselves to adapt things which are not necessarily meant for us. I feel that we have stopped caring for our own selves as we only care to be like someone else! Why are we trying so hard to fit in, when we are born to stand out! I'll just limit by saying. "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken!' High 5 :)

To Die For!

Honestly, I am not in the best of my moods today. Not that this day brought in only sadness but yes something ill! Never mind, bad times come to those who can take it and overcome :)
My little space aids letting things fade. So here I come to die for.

I am at a phase of the journey called life where I want to achieve 'something' so badly. I am sure many of us after pursuing higher education wanted to get to a point which decides the future; Can be anything a good job, luxury, a happy love life, pleasing package, an owned business, a great destination to reside, etc. This clarifies that each one of us definitely holds a bucket list, hopes and wakes up with a dream.We all have the willingness but the question is how far do we go to make it into reality? Is it to die for?

The good reads spell "Do what you love, Love what you do." Let's add die to do! (Caution: Do not reverse this statement..LOL) :D  I absolutely believe that until there ain't an urge, a belief, the willingness to turn dreams into reality, its not worth anything. Be 100% sure on what you plan to do even if the world has other plans for you. And then you will find your direction and commitment.

Work so hard that your works speaks for you, dream so big that the challenges seem smaller, love so deeply so that there is not much left to see in the world.
Let things take their own leisure time to happen. What matters is not doing great things but to do small things in great ways. I say life is not short instead is enough to become what you are suppose to. Choose a life to die for! High 5!

Fail Better!

Each evening after experiencing a bumper day I, my philosophical mother and my extremely realistic sister sit over discussions which start with A and end at Q; I bet you know how girls chatter, simply nowhere! One such warm evening we discussed what life was offering to all the 3 of us. One of the two uttered peace, the other said experience and I indicated opportunities. This debate continued until we reached failures, where we lacked and how we can turn things around. And that is how this chord hit; Let's fail better!

Fate got me reading to an awesome quote just a few days later to our discussion, expressed by some TV actor which said, "If some one questions your failure simply say, I did not fail, my success just postponed." There are such incredible times in life which smack so hard and make you realize that things are not yet over. This courageous quote refreshed my thoughts and got me back into action.

Each one of us somewhere, somehow is trying to achieve something. We take up challenges, we try, we either succeed or fail. Do we really fail? I don't think so! We don't fail; we just wrap up our next attempt and walk away probably looking for another target.
Failures can slap someone really tough. The deep impressions left by failures dishearten dreamers to desire. Why is that so? I figured out one of the reasons to this. The social circuit where we reside have profound influence on our actions and reactions. People might not appreciate a successful man but will definitely probe his defeat. The dishonorable dialogues, low looks, inglorious trials lead to a cracking sound in a man's heart which triggers his self-confidence. I believe self-belief should be only meal on the menu. If that erases, the survival is at risk.

Overlook what's been unnecessarily said, neglect the negativity and grab that one chance. Opportunities are not frequent visitors, they are in fact guests that too with gifts :D Let's give luck a chance, try until triggered and even after multiple efforts we fail, think of ways where we can fail better, because no one ever fails, it's just that their success postpones ;) High 5!

Why the Goodbye?

'It's the emptiest yet the fullest of all human messages- Good Bye.' Lately I have been bidding adieu to too many and I register how hard a task it is. This two lettered expression calls to mind those chapters which take you to all wistful as well as downhearted impressions spent; 'La vie en rose aussi avec des pauses.'

We, humans (Indians to be precise) are so affectionate, empathetic and take no time to build relationships; the strong, lasting ones. The theorem of  'oneness' that we are inculcated by our enduring families gets rid off the <detachable string> from our body and soul helping us originate bonds with benefits. People fit themselves in shoes, many a times overlooking the sizes. His/Her story grows to be mine in no time just because we choose to relate our titles. Funny, the Indian ideology!

These episodes anyways faint with time. Good byes let you have a look into the making of a relation, its sweet and spicy significance assisting you to design your upcoming sequence, while you record "Yes you morons, I will appear soon!"

My meaning of a good bye is to not end but to add an interval, everybody needs a break! Good bye simply implies that we now have inked few similar pages which can not be erased. Good bye awaits a fresh story to take place. With the belief to ink a new sheet with my beloved out there I say Good bye! High 5! :)

Womaniya!

The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me- YES, I AM A WOMAN!

After watching the 2 hours uninterrupted episode of 'Satya Meva Jayate', I have an energetic soul shouting from within to notify the world what it is to be a WOMAN. The shattering stories, the fatal facts and the shameful survival of those poor souls give nothing but rage, fear and distress. This cold-hearted society instead of lending a helping hand offers disrespect, humiliation and baggage full of ridiculous taunts.

A child when enters the age of comprehending surroundings, is taught to respect the society and what she gets in return is sexual assault, mental abuse and wrecked road decorated ahead to lead an unworthy and disgraceful life. Wow! Respect!
Someone rightly expressed, "The unhappiest people in this world are those who care the most about what other people think." People, we need to grow up! My opinion on this is one should not give a damn about someone else's comments. Too many will call you, its on you who you want to answer!

Well, If I begin to list down the problems, I might just not add a full stop. It's always good to talk about an answer, a solid solution. This universe's vicious circle is a blame game. If I am hurt it is because of someone, something. Let's just say I was not ready to protect my well-being.
I admire and appreciate women who are self proclaimed. Why do you need someone to shoulder your shoulder? You, woman out there are gifted with the ability to bear all odds; why not unwrap the gift and utilize it.

My idea behind sharing this message with all the WOW women is to not have power over men, but over themselves. Grab all the means which help you safeguard yourself, look out for roads which allow you to enjoy a non-bumpy ride, develop skills which help you lead a lavish, lump sum life. Don't go out there howling about your capabilities, prove it ! I am the best, forget the rest..I am a Woman! High 5! :)

The Indian Cinema!

No! I am not a critic by profession, just clarifying!
As soon as I stepped out of the cinema hall this evening I was so sure about dashing off my blog. 'The Indian Cinema' -that surprisingly abnormal way to entertain audiences.

I am not too much into watching movies, I only watch those which are highly talked about (I skipped Chennai Express though) and whose promos seem appealing. Movies create drama, action, suspense, thrill and humor in one's life. Some are full of brains and some absolutely empty-headed.
In these 2 days I encountered 2 such extremely observe flicks. A happy high Sunday on the 'Highway' and the mournful Monday with 'Shaadi Ke Side/Effects.'

After gazing the full of delight Randeep Hooda, just so petite Alia Bhatt and the musical genius A R Rahman who will not make way for Highway! The film takes you on a road trip! Randeep who was in his most anti-fashionable avatar, Alia so raw and unbleached with all the background score gave me goose bumps. The flamboyant acting skills, story line with perfectly stationed dialogues..oh my I still have the Highway hangover!

And then came 'Shaadi Ke Side/Effects.' When you have no plans to watch such vain and unproductive theater but your long lost crazy cousins find out ways to spend some more time together, I got no choice but to hit the box office. In the fully air conditioned hall I squeezed myself into cosy recliner on the grounds of hope of not falling asleep, stared at the big screen (Vidya Balan appeared bigger than the big screen). In the first half itself I had goose bumps (this time it was different). Like seriously? So predictable, such a claptrap and just so bizzare! I was tongue-tied.

I am unable to stomach movies having bad influence on people. The dreadful part was the newly wedded couple sharing the next seat, giggling on a few 'not so funny' moments and zapped with some. (How I know they were newly wedded, Lol The poor girl was decked up with all the possible signage of alliance, The Indian Bride) :p

Like they say, 'There is difference between ordinary and extraordinary, that little extra is The Indian Cinema. Some pleasantly connect to you while few others corrupt your coverage area! However, notwithstanding the true desiness at heart, Let the absurdity escalate, High 5 ;)

Mould It!

Mould it comes from an interesting talk with a sweet friend over a hot cup of tomato soup. The conversation was intense and made me think so deep! 

We are accountable for how people treat us. If I allow you to treat me casually you are bound to take me for granted, If I allow you to respect me you have no other choice but to honor. Its exactly how you want yourself to be seen and tackled. 

Many a times people just say things which are not to be voiced. However, they are not suppose to be blamed, it is because you were OK taking it. 

We can totally mould an event, an action according to our suitability, liking and preference.

In my own view I am responsible for what I say, not what one understands and derives out of it and this is only possible when I am able to mould my circumstances.

Life moves forward on a track decided and moulded by you. Mould it and Bold it ! High 5 ;) 

Forever YOUNG!

It is difficult to pen down the start of the topic. And see this is how I choose to do! ;)

Forever YOUNG is what comes to my mind right now. I always share a great rapport with people who are young at heart. I simply mean people who are lively, like to take situations easy, let go the bad, are entertaining, not pretentious and who always carry a pleasant smile along.

For me Being Young is Being Human. A young heart can do wonders, it allows you to think out of the box. This playful attitude finds and not just grabs opportunities. Life is full of challenges, stress, responsibilities, blah blah blah....So what? BRING IT ON! 

If I speak on personal grounds, I love to laugh. I love to laugh in any given situation (Yes, I mean any). I have no control over it. But this is what makes me feel young, fresh and a go getter. Whoever said it was a real great thinker, "Laughter is the best medicine." I have escaped from the ugliest and the most awkward situations by laughing, Seriously it helps :D Its childlike and raw!

Everyone has to grow up, grow old. Why not grow young? It would be so amazing to watch people growing young at the age of 65. A healthy heart, the urge to fulfill their pending dreams, cheerful lifestyle, an optimistic existence and so much more. For an interesting lifestyle one must remain young- Be young, Grow young and Die young. High 5 :) !

Money, No honey!

Who does not want a BMW parked in his/her mansion? Who does not crave to wear a Gucci or Prada in high-end gatherings? Why will one not be delighted to carry multiple debit cards? Why will the world not be flattered to dive in the pool of money! Why not when this will definitely buy fame, name and probably a win-win game (which is indeed an important aspect of life). However, my point is..is this worth it?

What makes me write on this topic today is that annoying scenario where people consider 'money' the ultimate thing to survive. Its either money or a lot of money! We all know money is valuable but should it take a toll on emotions, relationships and moreover RESPECT?

Sometimes people in sheer greed forget that life is so much beyond money. My dad ( I can't express in words what my father is to me) once shared 'Good things happen to those who don't run after money.'
So true! Reality check- Money is not always as sweet as honey!

Being loved is bliss, sharing is caring, trust is must ...Don't let money take away cute smiles! It is a part of ones life, not The Life!
Take it easy! High 5 :) 

What We Think, We Become!

January 15th 2014 was one of the most inspirational days of my life. From today I plan to think BIG, believe BIG and do BIG.

I have always been a very motivational person, I get motivated instantly (which I believe is a good trait). This day brought in a lot of flavor to my usual thought process. It was one of those places which helped me to see beyond what I currently am and doing. (Though I love the fact what I am and doing, but there in no harm in thinking BIG).

If someone asks me what is my hobby- Its taking challenges! If you want to grow you must possess the ability to challenge the challenges. One's life must be meaningful. One's life must have some interesting content to share. Life without meaning it not a life worth living! There come numerous instances in life which leave an inspirational mark. Some take it seriously some apply 'No Marks' to these! LOL..
Life is all about excitement and zeal. Why waste it?

The journey of life gives you good and bad times, the former to cherish and the latter to learn. And the best revenge is massive success! You need negatives to develop, its just like photography. Life is short- Believe in it, Love it and Live it.

Today, I stand tall and say 'I don't regret the things I have done, because I think BIG! High 5!

Less Is More!

I did think of posting my thoughts on a regular basis but (there is always a 'but') my demanding job plus my lazy attitude did not allow me to fill in my little space.
Recently I have been using the statement 'Less is More' very often and that I truly believe in it. If given a thought, this little expression says so much.
There are times when little gestures, emotions, things simplify the most complicated situations and stories. I personally used to expect so much out of people, things-basically life. I got nothing out of it but 'Babaji Ka Thullu' (Yes I am a big fan of..you know who ;) ) Some odd day I heard someone saying blah blah blah.."Less is more" and it just got stuck in my mind, body and soul.
Less of expectations, less of thinking, less of holding grudges, less of make up, less of gossip gives more of happiness, more of healthy relations, more of a positive and unburdened attitude and more inner as well as outer beauty. You tend to be just yourself!
I really want to say less because this mind blowing statement in itself says so much.
All I can and want to conclude is 'Say less -Feel, believe and do more ! High 5 :)